Why is it that the changes we choose to make end up change others more than we could ever hope to affect ourselves. Why is it that the simple and inevitable passing of time can forever alter the dynamics of a relationship, be it intimate or friendly? I know that the answers to these questions don't exist, but that doesn't mean that they don't have any merit.
Even though everyone thinks of themselves as special cases when they compare themselves to the rest of society, me being no exception, I honestly believe I am the same person I was when I left Manhattan, or even as when I left Boston. There was a period when I lived in Brooklyn where, due to some extenuating circumstances, I wasn't really myself. But other than that, I don't feel as if I've changed all that much in the past few years. I'd like to think that the average person doesn't change all that much either in such a short time period, barring a life altering, catastrophic event. That being said, how is it that relationship dynamics can change if neither person has changed? What is it that's different? So I guess my question on why friendships and relationships evaporate, boils down to a question of why people become friends in the first place...
The pessimistic Tim would answer that question by saying that people only become friends because they need something from that other person, be it a physical or a psychological need. The pessimistic Tim believes that people are only motivated by greed and desire. The pessimistic Tim is...Well, pessimistic. That being said, its self-evident as to why I don't have many long term friends.
Someone, anyone, please convince me otherwise...
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Friendships evaporate becuase friendships are ever evolving and both parties need to take an active participation in it, working together even when one of the parties might not be working as hard as the other!
ReplyDeletetat was supposed to be 'a quote' not 'a quit' ...... sorry =(
ReplyDeleteI cant remember where.. but.. I once read a quit that goes something like this:
ReplyDeleteIf (limits of) friendship is bounded with time and place; then it never existed in the first place. I really believe it. Real friendships never evoporate? Ever met a person whom you had not spoken with in years, but as soon as you got together, it was like you never spent time apart?